May 26, 2011

Toddler Troubles

The terrible twos. Yep. I believe we've entered them with a bang. Hitting? Check. Throwing toys? Check. Crying at the drop of a hat because we tell her "no?" Check. It seems like overnight our little happy girl has decided that she is in control and will do just what she pleases thank you very much! She likes to smack at our faces. We grab her hands and say "no." She looks at us, pulls her hand away and attempts to hit us even harder. Really?? What do we do then? Same thing with throwing toys. She'll fling a block at my head. I take it away, tell her "no" and what does she do next, she picks up another one and flings it at my head. Oh, and "the lip" is back. Remember this?

Yeah, she pulls that lip out for EVERYTHING now. It's so hard not to laugh though even when you are trying to discipline her. I have no idea how to handle these behaviors being a first time mom. I am not sure what is going to work or not work. I don't even know if I'll be able to follow through with it every. single. time. She's so cute and it is disarming!


  1. Hang in there. If you don't like what they're doing one day, wait until tomorrow it will be something different (and hopefully better!). Just be consistent in whatever you do; that's the most important piece. We've all been there or are there. And, she won't always be like this, I promise!

  2. Becuase we are foster parents we have a no physical discipline policy (i.e. no spanking). So, when our little guy (now almost 13 months old -- and walking) does something we don't approve of. He gets a Time Out (yes Time Out for a 13 month old)... however TO for him consists of sitting him in his walker (where he can't reach the ground -- he's still a wee bit short) and having him calm down in that moment. Basically removing him from the situation. The crib would work for this as well. Just a few minutes for him to recoup. Now all we have to do is say "No. Do you want a Time Out?" and he will stop the action.

  3. Yup, I am there too. Don't know what to do myself. Time outs are what we are doing. It works sometimes. They even walk to the timeout area. Then I make them come and say "sorry" (which they can't do yet) and "love your sister, Mommy, Daddy) who ever the "victim" of the hit or toy taking away, etc. They hug and then it is done. Does it work? I don't know. We'll see! But they understand "Do you want a timeout?" and the response is always "ut uh" or "no". So they get it. They might still get one after that though, if they keep it up.

    2s are hard!
    Don't know why it is saying I am "annomous" COurtney

  4. I was told the same as above. Arina was only 13 months when we brought her home, but she soon learned to cry and cry to get someone to hold her. i asked my ped if it was ok to give someone that young a time-out. She said definitely not, she has to learn! So thats what we did.
    Oh and the house is frustrating me! The housing market dropped even farther than I thought! Even though we are still in a good position, because we paid cash, and we bought a forclosure, we aren't going to have as much to put down on a home as I would like. I also can't really afford to pay an agent, but have no idea how to sell myself! *sigh*

  5. Stubborness is a trait that will follow through all her years and may drive you batty at times. Consistency and firmness is the most effective way of them not having the upper hand.
    My sister at 29 still is so stubborn, my mom left her on the front porch the other day (5-10 minutes) because she was being so stubborn.
    As for your comment on our blog we have endlessly tried to have the discussion with my sister about having DS, we have talked about why she looks similar to some of her friends with DS. Despite all our talks my sister still denies her DS stating 'not me, there is nothing wrong with me'.


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